MOTHERHOOD: A Blessing-Chapter 5

Every month i used to go to the hospital for check-up...... It was really fascinating how the baby was growing inside me.... everytime when i used to go to the hospital, they used to check my bloodpressure, heart rate and weight..... because i was under weight before pregnancy, doctor said i will gain more weight than normal range which is 25 to 35 pounds.... those women who r over weight gain less during pregnancy....but gaining weight should not be a worrying issue... because all a woman wants is a healthy baby.... i gained around 42 pounds during entire pregnancy..... and have already lost 25 -27 pounds..... exercising and eating right helps a lot..... there are some exercises which one should regularly do.....

1. Pelvic Tilt:

This exercise relieves back pain and helps during labor.... here's how you can do pelvic tilt:

    a. get on your hands and knees on the floor with your back straight

    b. breathe and relax your back

    c. breathe out and straighten your stomach muscles and tuck in your hips.... hold this position for 5 seconds....

    d. breathe for few times and relax your back again.

  Repeat this exercise 10-12 times.... they told me in the class to do it 3-4 times in a day..... it helps in muscles toning.......

2. Kegel exercises

This is an important exercise..... because it helps prevent leaking urine.... this is easy to do.... you can do it anyways.... standing or sitting....

     a. firmly tighten the muscles around your vagina(as if you are stopping to urinate but dont practise during urinating)

     b. hold it as long as u can

     c. then slowly release and relax.....

   Repeat this 25 times for 3-4 times a day.....

These exercises help a lot..... i used to have severe back aches and it became very difficult for me to sit for too long..... these exercises were a relief.... even massages help..... Really, it used to hurt so bad i used to cry sometimes..... I used to ask Ramanuj to massage my back..... and massage help me to go to sleep...... i also experienced severe leg cramps during 4-6 months of pregnancy..... foot massage helps a lot......

it is important to eat well..... do not diet even though u r gaining a lot of weight..... avoid fast foods, eat healthy snacks...... and drink 8 -10 glasses of water..... rest frequently.....and please dont try to be a superwoman..... Ramanuj used to scold me wen i used to behave like that.... ask other members to help with households.....

it is said u cannot get happiness without any pains...... trust me, when u have ur baby in ur arms u forget everything... the pains the worries.... everything!!!! All you remember is the baby and that now u r a mother!!! 

to be continued...........

MOTHERHOOD: A Blessing-Chapter 4

Whenever i used to look in the mirror i felt i was changing.... i started gaining weight..... and my face was changing.... my legs were changing..... my fingers, my hands, all of my body....

everything.... and also i was going through a lot of mood swings.... whenever i used to think of the baby i used to get happy... and whenever i thought of India and my parents i used to get sad that i am not there.... many-a-times i used to cry for no apparent reason.... i asked doctor bout this and she said it is all normal.... actually there is a lot of hormonal changes inside body so women feel like this a lot.... but Ramanuj was so patient.... he used to listen to me and talk to me...... that was so supportive of him.....

One afternoon while i was reading, i felt something in my stomach..... i just didnt care and started reading..... after few minutes again i felt the same..... i kept my hand on my tummy..... and again there was the same..... THE BABY WAS KICKING..... I was like "Oh my God! what is it?"..... I called Ramanuj and told him.... he was worried that we might have to go to the hospital..... But I told him the baby has started kicking..... He was so excited.... When he came home for lunch he touched my tummy and said" I cant feel it".... I said the baby doesnt kick all the time..... Later that day when Ramanuj was back home from office and we were watching movie.... i felt baby kicking again...... I told Ramanuj to feel and then he too felt..... wow.... then he started talking to the baby..... 

everyday almost bout every half an hour i used to feel the kicking.... it was amazing to feel how the baby was growing inside..... what a wonderful creater is God..... the mother has no idea wot's inside her.... how is it growing.... i had seen some videos on the internet on pregnancy..... its really amazing how just two tiny cells turn into a wonderful and beautiful baby in just nine months...... huh!!!

to be continued........... 

MOTHERHOOD: A Blessing-Chapter 3

From always Ramanuj and I wanted a baby girl..... and many of our family members too..... and some wanted a boy..... .well we didnt keep it a secret.... as we were so excited by the news and so anxious to know what's it gonna be?...... we had this appointment where i was supposed to know the possible complications i would be having... It is called FTS or first Trimester Screening.... Well my test went perfect and doctor said no complications so far.... it was another doctor and he said that since my age is right for a woman to concieve i had none of the complications which women less than 19 or more than 35 years of age have..... remember readers.... right thing at the right time.....  there is no woman in the world who doesnt want to be a mother... so why just make it late or early..... the age range 23 to 30 has the least risks of miscarriage.... so even if u feel its soon, its not and its right..... So my test went perfect and i happily came back home and thanked Ganpati Bappa...

So.... whats it gonna be....? a boy or a girl.....?..... Ramanuj said lets not keep it a secret.... and in US its not an issue bout a boy or girl..... if the mother wants to know they tell..... and i couldnt be that patient to wait nine complete months and then know what it was..... That day when Dr. Gaffari entered the examination room she said she'll be doing the Second Trimester Screening and if i wanna know she can tell whats the sex of the baby..... she checked the brain and spinal cord of the baby through ultrasound.... then she showed us the hands and legs...... oh my God they were moving inside me..... when doctor was showing baby's hands we got a feeling that it was waving its hands...... even doctor said the same..... wow...... it was such a beautiful scene..... then doctor asked if i wanna know the sex....... i said "dont tell me tell my husband"..... she said she cannot tell anyone except the mother of the baby...... So i said ok...... she said u r gonna have a baby Girl.......... we both did a big yahooooooooo........ doctor asked wot we wanted...... and we said we both wanted a baby girl....... I thanked Ganpati Bappa.......

On our way home we were discussing all bout Anushka..... Anushka is my little girl...... Before marriage, Ramanuj used to say if we have a boy we'll keep his name whatever u feel but if we have a girl we'll keep her name Anushka...... So it was Ramanuj who wanted our little girl's name to be Anushka...... We called our parents and they all were so happy...... 

So, our little one was on her way..... now it was another 5 months...... every day was like a century...... really i wanted to see my baby sooooooooooooo much...... 

to be continued.......

MOTHERHOOD: A Blessing- Chapter 1

Well readers of my blogs I wanna share with u'll a very magical moment of my life..... When I became a MOTHER!!! Wow.... when i look 3 months back, it felt so difficult.... but now as it has been 3 months i feel it was all so easy.... hahahaha!!! really giving birth is not difficult but raising a child is the most difficult part of life.... especially when u r alone..... yes when i first knew that i was going to be a mother, i had no one around me except the most important and supportive person in my life.... My Husband and of course i had my Ganpati Bappa with me all the times.... My Husband( Ramanuj) had no idea wot a baby is..... he had never seen a small tiny baby in his life.... how did we get all the strength.... You have to believe that there is someone sitting up there looking at us and solving our problems.... He gave me the most supportive  person because he knew I couldnt do it all alone.... This might sound a little filmi dialogue but I see God in him( Ramanuj).... Usme rab dikhta hain.... I have learnt a very important lesson in life that "IF YOU HAVE A HUSBAND WHO IS A FRIEND TO YOU , YOU DONT NEED ANYBODY ELSE IN THE WORLD".... When I didnt knew Ramanuj I used to always pray, as all the girls do, to Ganpati Bappa that whosoever You've selected as my soulmate He should not only be my friend but my BESTEST FRIENd.... and though He(Ganpati Bappa) has been a little late in answering my prayers because He is so busy answering the whole world.... my this most important one was answered on the right time.... and for this I can never forget Him(God).... God has always been kind with me and gave me the world's best of the things... Thank you O God!!!

Well we were all alone in U.S.... but we had very few friends who were too very supportive( to name a few Manpreet, Ajay bhaiya and Jyoti bhabhi, Kuldeep and Archana)..... When I was pregnant, I had all those pregnancy blues: how will the things happen? what to do What to not? What to eat and what to not? Am I doing the right thing or not?... and it was all very natural and obvious because I and Ramanuj dint knew anything at all.... And we still sometimes recall the time when Doctor said that my result is positive and I am going to be a MOTHEr and how both of us were all blank.... seeing us the doctor asked" Arent you happy?"..... and we........

what happened next......... read next post of The Magical Moment!!!!